Dieter Martin Bender, 90

The Rev. Dieter Martin Bender, 90, passed away in the care of Country Rest Home in Greenwood, Del., on May 4, 2019. He was born to the late Karl and Irmgard Schneider in Stuttgart, Germany, on April 12, 1929.

Bender led an interesting and amazing life. He served in the U.S. Army during the Korean War, and after leaving the service, he married his sweetheart, Beverley Van Duzer, in 1954. Together they raised five children.

Bender became a New York State Police trooper and retired in 1978 after serving a full career. He had been a lieutenant at the state police academy, finally serving as a captain at headquarters barrack at (Millbrook) Poughkeepsie, N.Y. He was described by NYSP colleagues as “squared-away, immaculately-dressed and always sharp.”

He then went on to seminary and became a Methodist minister. He served at various pastorates and also became a chaplain in the Department of Corrections. He proudly held the title of the oldest person to attend the Training Academy of the Department of Corrections.

In addition to his parents, Bender was preceded in death by his beloved wife, Beverley, in 2016. He is survived by his children, Robert Bender and his wife, Joyce, of Long Island, N.Y., Dale Bender and his wife, Diane, of Long Island, E. Scott Bender and his wife, Clare, of Saugerties, N.Y., Peter Bender and his wife, Jane, of Morgantown, N.C., and April, who married Brian Benfer (making for interesting times explaining that the spelling is not an error); his brothers, Karl Bender and his wife, Lois, and James Bender and his wife, Elaine; 15 grandchildren; eight great-grandchildren; and his extended family and friends.

A committal service with military honors was to be held Thurs., May 9, 2019, at Delaware Veteran’s Memorial Cemetery in Millsboro, Del., officiated by the Rev. Dr. James Van Der Wall. In lieu of flowers, the family suggested memorial contributions to the Brandywine SPCA in Georgetown, Del. Condolences may be sent online at